Winners are not tolerant

Life taught me that the quality of my life is directly proportional to the amount of bullshit I tolerate.

I spent most of my twenties and thirties proving it.

I’d let a draining friendship run for years because ending it felt harsh.

I’d stay in a job that made me miserable because leaving felt risky, and I didn’t want to look goofy in front of my rotund boss.

And I’d replay a throwaway comment from someone I barely liked for DAYS because my brain thought it meant I had some control over my life by worrying like a squirrel in heat.

You can quit a job, and you can drop a friend, but you can’t quit your own buzzing head.

I genuinely thought I was stuck with this kind of over-analysis. That’s just what human beans do, right?

I was a sensitive kid who grew into an anxious adult, and that’s just the way it goes, pal.

Too many people I know have removed themselves from the things they don’t like, but they’re still miserable.

I eventually figured out that most of the crap I was tolerating was decreasing the quality of my life dramatically. And it was mostly coming from my own thinking.

I was the one keeping it all alive by chewing on every bad thought like it was a warm meal I’d paid for.

I was tolerating stressful thoughts because I thought it was normal.

No. No. It does NOT have to be.

Worry is just a misuse of our imagination.

When I let go of the need to ruminate, the quality of my life sprang back up several notches.

I raised my standards by raising the bar of what thoughts I allowed in.

Letting go of negative thoughts in the moment was one thing, but I needed to make it stick permanently.

Untethered Mind is the course I built around how I solved that.

It shows you how to stop treating your worst thoughts like facts, so you can live with mental freedom.

Grab it here, joining 300+ others who got tired of their own nonsense.

Much love,

Alex