why are people so annoying?

Martin said something that really bothered me.

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Alex Mathers
June 07, 2026

Martin said something that really bothered me.

Shaneen looked at me funny, and I spent the rest of the day stewing in my room with the curtains closed.

Mark never seems to respect me. He makes me feel like my IQ dropped whenever we talk.

People are social beings (say this in the voice of David Attenborough), and so our interactions with them are central to our life experience.

When people do things we dislike, it can often be felt as stress or even deep, pulsating internal rage.

We all want to be respected, appreciated, and liked.

These are expectations, and it stings when we come across some goober who falls short.

This can be felt as pain.

But when we feel this pain, we end up upset, and our productivity and focus go to hell.

I've lost months of focus and joy to unpleasant experiences in relationships, for example.

Life is too short for this.

I've spent many years figuring out how to reduce this kind of 'people-related stress.'

What I found surprised me in its simplicity.

I learned that, even though it's near impossible to always be calm and stoic around certain people, it IS possible to very quickly turn your life around, by becoming the kind of person who genuinely and rarely gives a crap about what others do and think.

It's all about understanding how much of our stress with people comes from a thought we repeatedly hold, rather than from the supposed source of our annoyance: that other person.

Knowing this puts you in control again.

I made a full course on how to fine-tune these thought patterns so that we literally rewire our minds over a weekend.

'Let Go of the S#it That Weakens You' was developed for just this.

It guides you through how to unblock yourself very quickly from these various thought patterns (and making it stick for life).

You might be surprised how much of what stressed you last week is no longer a big deal at all.

Closes 5pm ET, Weds 10th June for months.

Alex