When you’ve had enough of feeling small

Most people spend their lives editing themselves to stay acceptable.

They walk into a room, real or digital, and instantly start adjusting.

They speak with a strained voice.

They share their opinions, but only after softening them to avoid upsetting anyone.

They write watered-down posts that sound like they’ve spent 12 hours with the HR department.

All because a distant voice in their psyche cries: ‘Hey, dumbass, make them like you!’

I get it.

It’s what I did through many of my school years and beyond.

And for a while, it worked.

No one hated me.

But no one really respected me either.

Eventually, I realised that trying to win everyone’s approval is the fastest way to lose my identity and stay miserable.

There’s a phrase I picked up somewhere called “lose the crowd.”

It’s being willing to stop chasing approval from the masses, so you can find the few who truly get you.

It’s when you finally realise that hiding is no longer serving you.

It was this that I began to dedicate my life to.

And things immediately improved.

Here’s something you can apply right now:

When you next feel the urge to say or write something, pause and ask yourself:

“Would I still say this if I didn’t care about losing a few people?”

If the answer is yes, say it.

If the answer is no, ask yourself who you’re performing for, and whether their approval is worth the cost of holding back and playing small.

This shift alone has changed how I write, speak, and live.

If you want to go deeper with this and make it second nature, I created this course that many are loving:

Let Go of the Sh#t That Weakens You

It’s a no-fluff, 15-step course to help you care less about what others think, without turning cold or careless.

Each step helps you quickly break down a specific thought pattern that may have been keeping you stuck for years.

The course will help you write more boldly, express yourself more freely, and live with more genuine joy.

Who said you needed permission to be yourself?

Big change starts with a little step today.

Alex