The Outward Focus Rule

I know what it’s like to be lost at an event, sweating and twitchy because I was so in my head.

I was self-conscious.

I was answering the internal question:

‘What can I do to look better?’

This question comes out of a perceived sense of insecurity…

And it made me anxious and in my head.

But we don’t need to know where this insecurity comes from.

To turn around this painful dynamic, I now flip my attention outwards.

That’s it.

It’s all about attention. Where do we put our attention?

We focus on the present moment.

We focus on the other person with deep curiosity.

The small details. We focus on other people and make others feel at ease. Not us. When you’re there, it’s already too late. Your inner intelligence guidance system knows how to adjust so you don’t start screaming like a crazy person.

Have faith that, by being present, you will know what to do without effort. It’s really true.

You don’t need to think up clever, complex plans in advance.

You don’t need to know what to say in advance. Just be there with us and relax.

The ideas will come to you naturally when your head isn’t spinning because you stopped forcing new thoughts into it.

This is a practice, much like any habit, so don’t worry if it takes a while to get the hang of it. You will get better at this with more and more exposure to various social situations, including sharing your voice and words online.

Why will this make you more likeable?

Years of awkward social events showed me that people tended not to respond favourably when I was deep into myself. In an effort to be liked, I went inside.

This pushed me out of the present, making me less attuned to my surroundings. People sensed this disconnection and neurosis and distanced themselves accordingly. Oh, the irony.

So, when I became more outward-focused, I was more present, creative, and relaxed.

We automatically train our minds to be more curious about others and our surroundings.

This is attraction fuel for people! Because it helps them relax and be more present.

You will find people drawn to your energy if you can help put others at ease.

This is the Outward Focus Rule.

And if you found this idea helpful, you might like getting full access to my course:

The Likeability Code: The 9 Surprising Secrets of Likeable People

(The Outward Focus Rule is one of the nine you will learn in the course).

Here are some of the other modules in this course:

• The Personal Immunity Principle

• Energy Alchemy Method

• The Lightness Principle

• The Mission Magnetism Rule

BUT:

This course is only available (and at a huge discount) until Wednesday 17th September 3pm ET.

After that, it’s gone for months.

Get access here before you miss it (only $67 today, down from $147)

Much love,

Alex

“I have always loved Alex’s writing, but this is the first of his courses I’ve ever taken, and I was blown away by the sheer power of it.” - Victoria, Entrepreneur