The little fear that connects most problems

I had a big revelation years ago that still affects my life.

I learned that most of my problems were directly linked to my fear of one thing:

My fear of disappointing people.

When I saw this, it just clicked.

Think for a moment how your current concerns revolve around this.

This fear affects how much freedom we allow ourselves.

It affects the degree to which we create and publish things.

It affects the strength of our relationships and our mental resilience after failures.
It even affects how much money we earn.

People who make good money are okay with repeated perceived rejection.

They pitch, they ask, they put themselves out there knowing most people will say no. The fear of disappointing others keeps most people from even trying.

My life changed when I asked myself one question.

How might my life improve if I were okay with sometimes disappointing others?

I found just about everything attached to this fear improved when I accepted that people will indeed be disappointed. That’s unavoidable. The only question is whether their disappointment controls my life.

I’m in Crete right now for three weeks, writing my first fiction novel about Finland and huskies. There are people back home who want me around. I’m disappointing them by being here.

But I came anyway because I honour my creative freedom.

Their disappointment or frustration might be real, but I have to accept it.

When you untangle yourself from this fear, you stop shrinking. You say what you think. You create more without permission.

You make decisions based on what matters to you, not on what keeps everyone else comfortable.

This isn’t to be a bad person.

It’s to honour who you are, so you are ultimately the best person for those who matter most.

If the fear of disappointing others is something you struggle with, my course Let Go of the S#it That Weakens You walks you through exactly how to break down the beliefs that keep you stuck in unnecessary worry.

You’ll learn to rewire these patterns so you can finally stop holding yourself back.

By the end of the course, you’ll care less about what others think, while still being a good person.

It just won’t bother you close to as much. The relief when I did this was immense.

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Alex