The golf lesson that changed me

I used to think golf was pure chaos.

Picture this: my dad and I on a Saturday morning, feeling confident after I nailed my last shot.

I'd line up, take my stance, and swing with complete certainty.

Straight into the trees.

I'd slam my club into the mud with clenched teeth.

But sometimes I'd approach the same shot frustrated, muttering under my breath, convinced I was rubbish…

And then 'ping', perfect chip shot onto the green.

This made no sense for years.

What I later realised

My mood had no impact on my performance.

So many get this backwards.

When confident, I was trying too hard to maintain that feeling. When frustrated, I'd stop trying to control my mental state and just play (often better).

I'm not saying we need to feel frustrated to do better. We just need to stop relying on feeling a certain way to do well.

The difference wasn't how I felt. It was how much I was fighting with my thoughts.

This insight shifted how I approached everything: writing, relationships, creative projects, and daily stress.

Most of us spend enormous energy managing our thoughts and feelings. We continue scratching wounds.

We try to control what feels like a precarious existence.

What if that's precisely what's turning us into walking dum dums?

We carry beliefs that feel so true we never question them:

'I'm not confident enough,'

'I need others' approval,'

'My past defines me.'

These thoughts become like a heavy rucksack we never take off.

They are never truth. They're just thoughts we've believed so long they feel like facts.

When I detach from the power of these thoughts, my effectiveness improves.

You don't need months of therapy to let them go. Sometimes, just seeing a thought as passing mental noise rather than absolute truth is enough.

When you stop carrying unnecessary mental weight, you feel lighter, more spontaneous, more yourself.

And it's this that has helped me perform better in so many areas, including sports.

If you've been held back by thoughts that run on autopilot: self-doubt, people-pleasing, or perfectionism, there's a way to see through them by deconstructing them quickly.

I've put everything I've learned into Let Go of the S#it That Weakens You. This course helps you understand how thoughts work.

We guide you through a series of steps that help you break down the most pernicious thoughts that keep you worrying about what others think, blocking your true confidence.

Get your copy here before the price changes.

You don't have to carry every thought that shows up. It's old programming, and it can be rewired fast.

Sometimes the most profound freedom comes from letting go of what was never really yours.

Cheers,

Alex