The day I asked for what I actually wanted

'No, Alex, you need to be bold.'

I was writing a proposal for a new coaching prospect, and I had to stop myself.

I was thinking small again, and I knew it.

I really wanted this client. So, I made the proposal palatable.

I'd charge what they'd appreciate, so I would practically guarantee the sale.

Nothing to create any tension.

It was my 'nice' proposal.

But then I took a breath and rapidly applied the backspace key.

'Not this time, Alex. It's time to push. We're not playing nice anymore. You're getting what you want.'

I raised the price, and when I read it out loud, I got goosebumps.

It didn't feel good. But, I suddenly felt this odd sense of freedom.

I'd ask for exactly what I really, really wanted.

I was in nervous alignment.

When I got on the call with the client, I felt it like a brick in my chest. Making the bigger ask wasn't easy, but I said it assertively.

There was a pause. I always wait for them to reflect on the price.

This time, it was like I'd just asked them to join me on a holiday to the Congo.

But they said, yes. And as they said it, I could see a little sparkle in their eye.

When you know your value, and you're willing to make the bold ask, even if you're sweating behind the Zoom screen, not everyone will agree.

But that isn't to be taken personally. The timing isn't always right, or you haven't found a more qualified, ready buyer.

Those who are ready will be empowered by making a substantial investment, just as you are empowered by asking for it.

You dared to push things forward in an atmosphere of tension, and that will garner respect.

You may get more NOs, but you'll also get more of what you want in life.

How to make bolder asks, more of the time?

You need to care less that this particular ask works out.

It sounds counterintuitive, but people are more responsive when it doesn't appear like you need them.

You want them, sure, but you don't need them.

Because you're thinking abundantly, without the unnecessary pressure from the false belief that your world will fall apart if they say no.

You always have other options.

You have a choice because that's the frame you're creating.

If you regularly play small, tweaking what you say so you don't cause offence, or get rejected...

You're limiting yourself and denying what you want and deserve.

What if you went through life asking for what you want with confidence, regardless of the outcome?

If you'd like that, you'll love my course:

Let Go of the S#it that Weakens You: 15 steps to rewire your mind so you care less about what others think

"Alex has a way of crystallising truth and wisdom in a way that is so clear and penetrating. It cuts through all baggage and offers immediate and practical ways to upgrade one's existence instantly." - Robin Klingler

The course guides you, step-by-step, through rewiring your mind around what others think, by unravelling the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck and fearful.

And, unlike what many say, this process shouldn't take long. It can be done in a matter of days.

What's your fear of what others think costing you? In your work, relationships and life adventures?

Buy the course here if you're finally ready to make a change.

Alex