Stop taking everything personally.

The one behaviour that will set you back further in life than any other is this:

Taking stuff personally.

If I had to draw a diagram mapping out my worst moments in life, I’d see a positive correlation between those times I took things personally and those times my life sucked notably.

What does taking something personally actually mean?

In simple terms, this is when you make something about YOU that had nothing to do with you.

For example, I was on a sales call with a dream prospect that I really really wanted as a client.

I made my coaching programme proposal, and they said, ‘Sorry, no.’

I was devastated. I took it personally. I sulked for a day and a half, eating Wheetos in my Garfield shorts.

But really, this rejection; this loss, had nothing to do with me.

It had, instead, to do with:

• My proposal didn’t emphasise their benefits enough.

• The prospect couldn’t visualise the transformation clearly enough.

• They didn’t have access to the needed funds.

It had nothing to do with ME.

When we take things personally, we act out of insecurity, bolstered by our huge, throbbing EGO.

Our ego wants us to maintain this untouchable and badass identity of this super cool cowboy who never fails (you).

Our ego wants perfection, and when we stumble in life, it makes us turn the spotlight on ourselves. Our ego was hurt.

In reality, this is immature behaviour. It weakens you, makes you see less clearly, become sad, and often pushes people away.

None of these things are healthy for you.

And taking things personally screws this up for you.

So, you must learn to develop a more mature mind.

A mature mind sees through the laughable facade of ego.

They see things for what they are with wisdom and a large helping of rationality.

This means taking a freaking breath for a change instead of reacting in anger and stamping your foot like a toddler.

When others witness you in the act of taking things personally, they will lose respect.

Just as you lose respect for yourself.

What to do now?

Take a tiny step into what it’s like to be the proud owner of a mature mind:

Get mindful.

See how creativity is the far better route than reactivity.

Slow down and watch your true intelligence shine through.

Note: you’ll find it nearly impossible to rarely take things personally if you don’t fully detach from your illusory personal thinking.

Untethered Mind gives you a simple step-by-step process to help you rewire your mind to see things for what they are, with little effort (you just read and absorb).

Learn more here.

Much good happy times,

Alex