Selfish prick or self-respecting badass?

I know many seemingly intelligent people who feel trapped.

They live somewhere they continually complain about, for example.

They tell me they want to do something about it.

But a year later.

No change.

Because deep down, they’re afraid of seeming selfish.

They don’t want to upset Mummy. Or Bobby, their dog’s masseuse.

They don’t want to ‘be difficult’ and let others down.

The solution here isn’t to hell with it and just be a selfish prick.

You don’t need to be selfish.

You just need to re-establish what was there all along amid the noise and programming and guilt and fear:

Your self-respect.

When you return to living a life that expresses more of the self-respecting you, decisions that serve you come more naturally.

They feel less dramatic and less guilt-ridden.

Just…obvious.

When I explored the more self-respecting me, energy flowed back rather than continually being exchanged for a steadily building internal rage.

I found creating new things a little easier. My steps were a fraction bolder.

I began to tune into what felt right.

This is a shift most people never consciously make, which is why they stay in this silly, stuck purgatory.

Here’s one of several ways you can re-immerse yourself in self-respect:

Don’t be a slob.

(Wait, wut? Alex, you were supposed to insert some profound philosophical aphorism here.)

Yep, I mean it.

Get a haircut. Trim your dirty nails. Wear clothes that make you feel good.

Many say focusing on your looks is superficial.

But it’s powerful because it sets in motion a self-identity loop that feeds into more self-respect.

Here’s what happens:

• You dress better and treat yourself with more care

• You feel more self-respecting

• You act in ways that match that identity

• Repeat.

That’s how self-respect works. It continually reinforces itself with the right habits like these.

Walk tall and look good.

That’s where it starts.

This is just one of many things I share in my book The Art of Self-Respect.

It’s a well-reviewed, no-fluff guide for anyone tired of putting themselves last, and ready to build the kind of inner respect that has you living the life you WANT with less guilt.

Don’t wait another year to re-align your badass self.

Get the book here:

👉 The Art of Self Respect

Yours,

Alex ‘Writer boy’ Mathers