I was worrying too much again

I'm building my base camp on my newly acquired 75% acre in a rural Bulgarian village.

I noticed a worry that kept returning:

I can't speak Bulgarian, and I won't be able to talk to anyone, and people won't like me.

I stopped myself while mowing my grass and recalled an idea that has greatly reduced my suffering over the years.

It's this:

'Alex, all your worries show you the specific things that are not worth worrying about.'

I clapped my knee and said, of course!

These worries are NOT worth my time.

I'll learn the language (more motivated to do so now), and why would people dislike me for not immediately knowing a difficult language?

Perhaps I'll even convey a certain degree of foreign-man mystery.

But this is useful, now that we're talking about it:

The thing my mind is fixating on, the thing I'm catastrophising about, is NEVER worth worrying about.

Never.

It doesn't sharpen the next move or make me more likely to succeed, and it only burns energy I could be spending on the things worth focusing on.

Like cutting my damn grass.

Worrying is just a misuse of our imagination. There is never a time or place for it.

That always brings me relief.

You mean I don't need to worry?

No.

Not even an itsy bitsy bit?

NO.

And when we let go of our worries, our energy rises, and we become more upbeat and optimistic.

I'll take that energy, thank you very much.

By the way, this is one of the central insights in 'The Likeability Code,' my course on the 9 principles of how to be genuinely likeable (without ever trying to be likeable)

Inside, you learn how to:

• Stop overthinking how you're coming across and start being someone people want to be around

• Take nothing personally, even when people are dismissive

• Be the person who lifts the energy and leaves an impression

• Become strangely magnetic and build a memorable YOU-brand

• Use lightness and subtle self-deprecation as a cheeky form of power

• Drop the people-pleasing without being a dick.

I'm opening the course for 5 days only to celebrate choosing a happy life over a worried one.

It's heavily discounted until this Tuesday 23 June at 4pm ET. Then it closes for 5 months.

Get instant access here.

Peace and good things,

Alex