This made me stop wanting to please everyone

‘To be happy, you must please people.’

This is what society had been whispering in my ear for years.

And so I spent years in misery because my sense of happiness was based on how others treated me.

Shopkeeper frowns at me?

I was sad.

Criticised at a work meeting?

I got angry.

Sally didn’t reply to my text?

I felt depressed.

It took me many years and a life coach I met in Vietnam to help me stop hitting my head against a wall.

Stroking his mustache, he said to me ‘I used to struggle trying to please everyone I knew. It got me nowhere. I got depressed. So I got really, really good at one thing. Coaching. When I did, I attracted the people who mattered to me.‘

This hit me like a low-flying bat in the night.

It was the insight I needed to double down on my online business and master my writing.

Suddenly my focus was on the skill of writing, and no longer on myself.

I studied courses and books to get better.

I began to feel better, even if most of my articles flopped.

I wrote blogs that people didn’t like, and oddly enough, I cared less.

I had forgotten about trying to be liked, because I was focused on something completely different.

A skill.

Turning outward to becoming hot shit at something made all the difference.

My tribe formed.

I became likeable without trying to please everyone.

This is just one of the points hidden in the 9 secrets that I reveal and explore further in my latest Ember mini-course, released today: ‘The Likeability Code: The 9 Surprising Secrets of Likeable People.’

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Alex