Crossing the borders you can’t see

I was peeing in Finland but looking at Sweden.

We’d just stopped for a driving break.

A rushing river separated the two countries. An invisible border ran down the middle.

Made-up lines created in stuffy offices with pens, paper, compasses, and a desire for identity.

Here, there are Finnish people. A few wades through water in that direction, Swedish people.

And yes… borders create and mould unique cultures.

They can protect what’s precious.

They can give shape to something worth keeping.

But not all borders deserve to stay.

We’ve got the same thing happening in our heads: mental borders.

Some protect us.

But most keep us small.

These mental borders sound like:

‘Be careful about what you say. You might hurt someone’s feelings.’

‘Just play it safe.’

‘You can’t just do stuff like that. At least wait for permission.’

‘Don’t be weird.’

The problem is these invisible lines were drawn by an earlier version of us who listened to people who didn’t truly understand what they were saying.

Cranky teachers. School bullies. Critical parents.

And we’ve been obeying those limiting rules ever since.

We’ve been unknowingly trapped.

When I saw past these borders, I began to taste real freedom.

I felt more at ease with myself and my choices.

And it all started by realising I could walk right past the border.

In my course, Let Go of the S#it That Weakens You, I’ll help you spot and dismantle those fake mental borders:

• Worries about what others think

• Shame from the past

• Getting over taking things personally...

The course guides you through 15 beliefs that block you from true mental freedom.

Access the course here today.

Alex