Continual emotional ups and downs don't need to be a thing

It took me a good three decades on this planet to realise I was a highly sensitive person (HSP).

I probably rejected the idea for years before that because it seemed weak. But I learned it has nothing to do with weakness - just that I'm more attuned to external stimulation, emotional charge, and take in more data than many.

It means I notice things many miss. It's helpful for my writing. It played a big role in my illustration career that I built from scratch in my twenties (off the back of a geography degree).

But it also meant that for most of my life, the quality of my life 'felt' volatile.

FELT being the operative word here.

I was easily swayed because of the sensitivity, and could spend days stewing over a harsh word said or a difficult life event. My mental state was up or down and rarely steady.

That's why I forced myself to find a way to stabilise in my twenties. I couldn't keep living the up-and-down life.

I tried everything and finally stumbled on the most powerful thing:

The relationship I had with my thoughts.

Weird eh?

Think of this for a sec:

Someone says something that hurts. You have a choice at this point:

1. Feel the hit for a few moments, shrug, move on and return to BASELINE quickly (that's what mental strength looks like).
2. Feel the hit, ruminate on the meaning of the pain for hours or days, lose time, become miserable and anxious in the process. (That's a form of mental fragility)

And for years, I was firmly in the second camp.

Not helpful. Not productive. Not my most optimal life. (Even if sad movies felt like more of an experience than most)

How to spend more time in the first camp?

How to become more mentally resilient?

It's about cutting off the rumination at the source. To make the choice that keeps things light. Because life IS light; we just make it heavy sometimes.

The heaviness is amplified the longer we spend thinking about our thinking. Silly, right?

That's literally mental vulnerability. We have a habit that leads to too much thinking about our thoughts.

Click click. Hello? The world is right HERE. In front of you. Look around, Sally. This is it. Not in there.

So I became far more stable and far happier when I took my thoughts less seriously. It's a skill to practice and master.

When you're here, stress fades quicker or doesn't even show. Creativity zooms. Productivity zips. Relationships thrive.

People respect you more, and you respect yourself more.

I'd say the habit of thinking less about your thoughts is pretty darn necessary.

I keep going on about this course, but it's for a GOOD reason. I really mean it. Untethered Mind is the course for you if any of this tugged a nerve.

Untethered Mind takes this skill of thinking less about bad thoughts and makes it permanent.

Because permanence is tied to building the foundational understanding that makes it stick. Tiny idea, huge results.

My course is the only one that does this effectively. But you need to really absorb it. Allow the insights to stick. That's when it works. Consistent mental strength is a couple of hours away when you dive into the course.

Learn more here.

Toodles,
Alex