Being okay with being disliked (and why it sets you free)

They say it requires courage to be disliked.

Okay.

But what if you could actually become okay with the idea that some people did not like you?

Given that the biggest fear humans have, besides death, is looking goofy speaking in public, I'd say becoming okay with being disliked would transform your life.

Now, I'm not advocating for being a terrible, disconnected, hateful person. That just sucks for everyone involved.

Listen carefully, because what I'm saying is radically different.

What if you could reach a point where being disliked didn't bother you anymore?

What would that kind of resilience do for you?

Would you be bolder? More assertive? More playful? More focused on your dreams?

You can still be a great person. But now you'd be a great person, without fear of others' criticism.

Most people struggle deeply with this. They're people-pleasers. They can't stand the idea of being disapproved of. This makes them anxious, so they play it safe and wear a mask.

But if you became okay with being disliked? (Even just entertained the possibility?)

You'd be in a whole new stratosphere.

You'd be comfortable with being occasionally polarising.

That's key, because you wouldn't want everyone to hate you. That would be silly. But you'd be more likely to have more people genuinely drawn to you, because if some people are bothered by you, you're likely saying what you really mean.

And that can bother some.

Think about it for a moment.

We all put on a mask to fit in, to varying degrees. You have opinions. If you shared them without censoring yourself, would you please everyone?

Likely not.

That's what I'm getting at.

Freedom lies in being okay with others' judgment. Because to be truly free means expressing yourself as yourself, not the masked version.

People are miserable because they don't get a chance to be themselves.

So, first, imagine a reality where you're actually okay with not being liked by everyone. Not that you seek it out or enjoy it; just that it doesn't shake you.

Next, challenge the idea that being disliked is necessarily a bad thing.

Write down all the possible reasons why being disliked could actually be good.

I'm asking you to do this because I learned that the brain rewires when I'm proACTIVE in challenging my false beliefs.

This doesn't mean becoming the world's worst human. It's a psychological exercise designed to break down unnecessary fears and unshackle you.

When you can handle being disliked…

You'll begin to see what it's like to be untouchable.

And if you'd like more guidance on breaking down all the societally programmed beliefs that keep 95% of people in fear:

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• Have released social fear

• No longer see the 'point 'of pleasing everyone

• See that fully expressing yourself is no longer a risk

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• Feel mentally resilient.

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Best,

Alex