Being mean to people dramatically improved my life

I wasn't good at setting boundaries for most of my life.

I rarely said no, and found turning down invitations painful, even if I hated it when I went.

I tolerated bad behaviours from people who didn't deserve my patience. And I wondered why I often felt so drained and why others didn't seem to respect me.

The problem was I believed it was harsh to set boundaries and not always give people what they wanted. So I kept bending, and I just felt more and more drained.

When I finally became comfortable with not always making others happy, my life improved immeasurably.

I was happier, more energised, and actually made time for things that others eventually thanked me for, like creative projects finished and writing that helped people.

So what really made the difference? I didn't suddenly understand how to ‘set boundaries.’ Yawn Central.

I learned to be comfortable with the idea that sometimes upsetting other people, even people important to my life, could be a net positive for both parties. Crucial.

The change wasn't in how I dressed. Or who I dropped from my life. Or that I suddenly became confident overnight. The change came in how I saw the truth.

The truth changed from:

‘Putting my needs first is what bad people do.’ (<-- absolutely crappy truth, Barry)

TO:

‘Putting my needs first makes me respect myself and, in turn, makes the right people respect me too, even if it bothers them at first.’

GAME-CHANGER.

But that's just one belief shift.

Caring FAR too much about what others think is the number one thing getting in the way of what most people want. Think about it. And I had a lot more beliefs like that one holding me back.

You need the full playbook, because one belief change you forget after a day doesn't cut it.

That's where my course Let Go of the S#it That Weakens You comes in.

(This is the course for rewiring your mind so you care less what others think).

It walks you through ALL the belief shifts relevant to you personally across all the necessary life areas and common interpersonal problems, such as self-sabotage and social anxiety.

It’s tailored to you because the exercises prompt responses relevant to your life. It’s done in a way that makes the change permanent.

You can turn things around in a matter of hours, but it requires your focus. This course can't be wolfed down like a pill.

It's here for you at a stupid price for a while. (What's $147 if it means your challenges around confidence and not allowing the behaviours of others to affect you are handled for life?)

Grab it here.

Later,

Alex