A weird trick to being cool.

At school, I’d sit there trembling.

I hated the idea that I’d appear ‘uncool.’

I felt incredible resistance to speaking up and asking questions in class.

My skin would prickle at even the suggestion of raising my voice.

I’d picture myself having a mini-stroke halfway through my little speech.

Classmates writhing around the floor in laughter.

The teacher laughing and pointing at me.

In my mind.

All because I wanted to appear cool, likeable and interesting.

When I try to be really really good at things, I sabotage my calm.

I become a wreck, incapable of doing anything, let alone doing anything well.

The same has applied in office meetings.

Giving talks on stages.

And even submitting my ideas in emails like these.

When I try to be cool, I end up being the exact opposite.

As the philosopher Rumi said:

“All your anxiety is because of your desire for harmony. Seek disharmony, then you will gain peace.”

Wow.

I don’t believe we need to actively seek disharmony to have peace, but we certainly don’t need to hold on to desiring harmony.

When I let go of the need to look good, I end up doing better.

It took me years to truly grasp this.

It required immersing myself in more uncomfortable situations.

It took re-wiring my beliefs about myself in the context of other people.

I learned how being okay with NOT being cool could actually be the coolest thing I ever do.

Now I don’t try to be cool.

I am okay with UNCOOL.

It changed my life.

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Alex